When you hear the words “anal sex”, you immediately cringe and hold yourself for fear that your partner may urge you to do something that you can’t seem to fathom. No? Maybe your curiosity has sparked to discover another form of pleasure that you didn’t think was possible. Everyone has their own special preferences with what feels satisfying, and anal sex may very well be one of them. Let’s be honest. Most of us have minds that eventually wander into the “unknown”. If you are open to exploring your curiosities with anal sex, this is probably the guide for you.
No Longer A Taboo
In this day and age, women have become more expressive with their sexuality in a way that would have been looked down upon from even two decades ago. Anal sex is one topic that has increasingly become the norm in sexual dialogue that it is not much of a taboo at all. You might even be surprised at the percentage of women who have engaged in anal sex. In 2010, The Journal of Sexual Medicine discovered that 40 percent of women aged 20-24 had anal sex. Quite a big number since women are often perceived to be turned off by the concept of anal sex. The common misperception when it comes to anal sex is that men want it and women are completely repulsed by it.
More Couples Are Interested
Many couples fear that their nights of long, passionate sex will become routine so they resort to reading the classic Kama Sutra, using sex toys, and even watching hardcore porn to spice up their sex life. Ironically, one of the most searched and popular porn categories is anal sex. Those who are more adventurous in the bedroom should look into having some “back door loving” because it’s so easy to neglect a region that can be so stimulating for each person involved.
More Than A Feeling
Anal sex is an experience like no other. Some women have stated that they’ve achieved their ultimate orgasm through anal sex as opposed to usual vaginal intercourse. Everyone’s bodies respond differently to different feelings, and it’s up to you to decide what feels right for you physically and mentally.
Know Yourself
Do you know what makes you feel good? Perhaps you want to start with getting used to the feeling of having something in your anal canal before having full-blown anal sex. Start by having your finger or his finger inserted into the rectum. Using a small sex toy can also help. An excellent idea would be to try the Rianne-S Booty Plug Set as it has 3 different sizes and is made with super soft silicone. As stated on their website, "It's the ideal kit to further explore your body and undiscovered erogenous zones." Lube is highly suggested. Once you feel comfortable with those steps, soon you’ll find yourself wanting more and before you know it, your initial hang ups about anal sex will go away.
It’s only natural for first-timers to feel intimidated by the idea. If you and your partner decide that this is something you both want to do, then great! A mutual level of trust must be established before the act to avoid anything from going wrong. Like anybody’s first time with sexual intercourse, you might experience some discomfort, but you want to make sure that nobody is hurting in the process. This is supposed to be a pleasurable experience for not only you, but also your partner. When you’re both feeling good, the experience turns out to be good. Just remember to relax. Relaxing the sphincter is crucial when preparing for anal sex. One way to loosen up is to have mind-blowing sex that leads to the “Big O”.
Do you want to eliminate the sandpaper friction? Well, lubrication is a must. When using condoms, make sure the lube is water-based because latex material deteriorates with oil-based lube. This is where Intimate Earth comes in with our Adventure and Daring Benzocaine-Free Anal Relaxing Serums. Unlike other unsafe products on the market, our herbal serums cause no anesthetic effects. When using our relaxing serums, the anal sphincter becomes relaxed and therefore penetration becomes more comfortable. These serums contain no Benzocaine, which are numbing agents that prevent pain from occurring but lead to tear and damage to the sphincter. Intimate Earth utilizes natural clove oil that relaxes the area for safe and comfortable penetration. Adventure and Daring work quickly, are easy to apply, and are latex condom-friendly.
If you’re really concerned about cleanliness, then you’ll want to try our Soothe Hygienic Anal Glide. Soothe is an ultra-thick water based anal glide that contains natural Guava bark. This glide provides maximum lubrication for comfort and enjoyment for both partners. It’s paraben free, latex condom-friendly, and safe to ingest.
Don’t Rush
There’s no need to rush. Anal sex requires a lot of patience and trust between you and your partner, especially if you’re trying to reach an orgasm. Have some foreplay, or a lot of it. Being greatly aroused makes for an easier transition into anal sex. It’s best to go slow and not tense up any muscles. Pay attention to not only your partner’s body, but their emotions as well. Take it one step at a time until both of you get comfortable with the new feeling.
After Anal Sex
So you have made it this far into anal sex discovery, and you’re thinking about what happens next. If you and your partner plan on shifting to vaginal sex, then it would be wise to switch condoms. Doing this will reduce chances of contracting STDS and any bacteria that can cause infections. When cleansing, use baby wipes or simply shower to wash away any residue left in or around the area. Luckily, the serums and glides mentioned earlier in this guide are water-based and are much easier to clean up. If you used any toys, be sure to use a toy cleaner. Intimate Earth’s Green Tea Tree Foaming Toy Cleaner is infused with the natural cleaning ingredients of tea tree oil, lavender oil, and our signature natural anti-bacterial ingredient guava bark. This unique formula makes it as gentle as possible on every type of toy material and human skin. It is Triclosan and alcohol free, and safe to use on any kind of toy.
Conclusion
Now that you’ve read this guide, you are ready to have mind-blowing sexual experience. This is something that both you and your partner should want to do, and not because you both feel like you should. Remember to have fun, and love naturally.